Stop being a little BITCH!

Yeah, I said it!

It’s time to Man up!

Most women are starving for men to be men again, whether they want to admit it or not. Can you really blame them, guys? When women must be the aggressors and ask you out because you’re too much of a coward to say hello, there is a severe imbalance in society! When you aren’t opening her car door, can’t keep a job, or are failing at life overall—because all you want to do is come home and play video games or watch porn for countless hours instead of chasing your goals or dreams—then you are no longer the man that’s needed. Yes, I said it . . . man card revoked. But that doesn’t mean that you can’t get it back.

Then there are the guys out there who are insecure that their women are doing better than them financially and get upset because of their success. This isn’t a competition against anyone but yourself. If you’ve got a badass woman who is achieving her dreams without throwing it in your face, that’s a bonus for you! Jealousy or anger over that is ridiculous; be a real man and be truly happy for her accomplishments and strive to do better in your own life. Or perhaps you get yelled at by your boss and you feel the need to go to a designated safe space room and cry about it! Good lord, no wonder our testosterone has decreased by multipliers in the last thirty plus years. It’s time for men to be men again. It’s time to bring back some old-school, innate traditions that most men have seen wither away over the last several decades and have been put on hyperdrive in this cluster chaos of a 21st century.

So, the solution, you ask?

Simple, but not easy—it’s time to BUY YOUR BALLS BACK!

I’m talking about being an alpha male, being confident, not cocky. Be the king of the jungle you were meant to be. Jump in the damn driver’s seat; be the leader a woman wants to follow, and the role model young men want to emulate.

Be a gentleman. Open doors for women. Say, “yes, ma’am” and “no, sir.” Wait your turn in line—Southern chivalry—if you will.

Last, but not least, be financially responsible. Money is security. A woman isn’t being a gold digger because she wants stability and security. If you don’t have money or help to provide for your household, you’re going to have relationship problems whether you like it or not. You need to pull your own weight. There’s a reason that 51 percent of divorces in America name finances as a factor. You can’t help others if you can’t help yourself. So, go get yours, and that’s part of what we talk about in this book. It’s simply primal instinct. What you kill is what you eat; you don’t eat if you don’t kill.

We have all heard the saying “nice guys finish last.” This is a common stereotype, and this is such bullshit! Pussies do! Pussies finish last! Everyone thinks you either need to be a gentleman or an alpha male; a nice guy or a dick. There are a ton of badass nice guys out there. I’m going to help you flip that notion on its head. I will show you how to become an alpha nice guy.

Last, but not least, be financially responsible. Money is security. A woman isn’t being a gold digger because she wants stability and security. If you don’t have money or help to provide for your household, you’re going to have relationship problems whether you like it or not. You need to pull your own weight. There’s a reason that 51 percent of divorces in America name finances as a factor. You can’t help others if you can’t help yourself. So, go get yours, and that’s part of what we talk about in this book. It’s simply primal instinct. What you kill is what you eat; you don’t eat if you don’t kill.

We have all heard the saying “nice guys finish last.” This is a common stereotype, and this is such bullshit! Pussies do! Pussies finish last! Everyone thinks you either need to be a gentleman or an alpha male; a
nice guy or a dick. There are a ton of badass nice guys out there. I’m going to help you flip that notion on its head.

I will show you how to become an alpha nice guy. My firsthand experience shows that it’s possible to be successful, respected, and influential without compromising the qualities of kindness and decency. After traveling the world and talking to hundreds of the most successful, happiest, and most ambitious men on the planet, trust me—you can be a beast in business, have a beautiful woman by your side, and treat everyone you meet with respect and kindness. People question how they get there, however, and that’s what we cover in this book.

In my travels, encounters, and research, a true renaissance alpha male possesses a unique blend of attributes that most of the middle management to miserable men on this planet are lacking today. The key is creating a well-rounded blend of confidence, assertiveness, leadership skills, empathy, respect— and ultimately—kindness. Look no further than men like Elon Musk, Keanu Reeves, Tom Brady, Joe Rogen, William H. McRaven, and many more who have balanced all these manhood-centric traits in a beneficial way for themselves and the people around them.

I must be clear here—buying your balls back takes courage!
As one of the four main crucial aspects of stoicism, courage at its core is such a vital role in being a man’s man. I don’t care what part of the world you’re from, what your skin color is, or what side of the tracks you were born on. We all have courage in us. Some of us just need to exercise it more. Think of courage like a muscle; and much like a muscle, it’s strengthened by training, tearing, stressing, and challenging it with repetition. This book is going to help guide you in finally picking up that weight of courage and using it!

This book will help you find the courage to:

• approach the woman of your dreams to ask he
• apply for a job or promotion that you desperately desire
• drop deadweight within your circle of friends or family members that drag you down
• reduce distractions in everyday life, including excessive use of social media or watching too much TV
• chase your passions and dreams
• leave or get a divorce from a toxic relationship

The English word “courage” originally derives from the Latin prefix “cor” meaning heart. Be a man who walks through life with courage, meaning—give it all you got coming from your heart!

As a man . . . remember this quote from one of the most man-centric movies of all time. “Your heart is free. Have the courage to follow it.” - Braveheart

For me growing up in a lower-income, single-mother household with my two older siblings, we had our classic share of the challenges and difficulties that life throws at you. Yes, we had hard times and certainly didn’t have it made; we were far from having silver spoons in our mouths. In retrospect, however, it was needed to teach me the important lessons of life. I learned that all success stems from hard work. That’s a great pillar to start with, and something that is almost completely void from today’s society. For many years, however, Is pun my wheels at dead-end jobs that didn’t offer opportunity for growth. That’s just it, I was working hard, not smart.

After both success and failure at owning my own flooring company while still putting in shifts at the fire department, I was tired of job-hopping. I was DONE seeing my bank account in the negative. I knew it was
time for a change. Here I was in my mid-twenties, getting closer and closer to my thirties with no college degree, no retirement plan, nothing. I wanted a change and knew I needed one but didn’t know where or how to start. You will hear me mention later, a wise man once told me the real work of becoming successful comes after the work horn blows. This is when you must find the grit to get shit done, and what really separates what you’ve got from what you’ve dreamed about having. It’s like going back to the metaphorical lab to mix chemicals and invent something new in the world and within yourself.

After countless hours of hard work trying to figure out what I wanted and needed to do, some people would say I was wasting time with no real direction. This is the part of life that people don’t understand is necessary for success. Failure turns into success if you keep putting yourself back in the ring. Think of the classic Newton’s First Law, something at rest stays at rest! You must keep moving! You rest, you rust!

I wasn’t happy with my situation, so I was working on myself day by day, and staying focused on getting just a little bit better each day then the next. I always believed in the saying:

“THROW ENOUGH SHIT AGAINST THE WALL, SOME- THING’S GONNA STICK!”

After countless rejections, finally I caught my break. I found a calling with a golden opportunity in the medical field!

Here, my mantra of buying my balls back was born.

A career change opened my eyes to some of the finer things in life. I saw things I was always aware of but had never experienced firsthand. My new outlook on life affected how I carried myself.

With this new mindset, for the first time, I had freedom, flexibility, and movement in my life. Some would say I had a bolder outlook with a bigger set of balls.

Now, this didn’t happen overnight—I didn’t go to sleep as a frog and wake up a prince. It happened incrementally. First, I had more financial freedom. I knew if I really wanted a change, I had to start with my bank account. Money doesn’t buy you happiness, but it does buy you the ticket to go find it!

This book gives you steps and strategies from my personal stories as well as mentors in my life to help be a guiding light when lost in the sea of life. I want to help men be more prepared for the storms ahead. The quote from Miyamoto Musashi, “It is better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war,” is a
powerful reminder of the significance of being prepared, strong, and resilient in any situation. Buying your balls back reinforces the idea of being proactive and taking charge of one’s life.

Have you ever heard about the difference in buffalo and cow’s reactions to storms?

When cows sense that a storm’s brewing, they’ll often do what’s completely natural and what most of us do—they run in the opposite direction, trying to get away from it. Buffalo, on the other hand, have a different strategy. When a storm is approaching, they run directly into it. Cows run away passively, without truly taking decisive action, and in the end, this can lead to prolonged suffering and even their demise.

When buffalo face a storm head-on, they don’t shy away; they go on the offensive and charge. They “buy their balls back,” and by doing so they minimize their time in the storm and reduce their long-term pain and suffering.

This book will help give you the mindset and tools to confront challenges directly, while not shying away from difficult situations. This will inspire courage and determination whilst having a vivid reality
check about yourself. You must be willing to acknowledge the truth about your current situation plus your strengths, weaknesses, and areas for improvement. Having the guts to take the steps and committing to execute them is crucial. Taking action is key to bringing about real change!

Buying Your Balls Back: The mantra,“ buying your balls back,” symbolizes taking control of all aspects of life, including work, lifestyle, and relationships.